Sitting here today, a few days before Christmas, writing my Christmas cards, wrapping gifts and planning the best presents to give the precious people in my life. Many questions go through my head. Questions like: Will this present be the right one? Will they like what I picked? Would they prefer money or a Gift Card to their favorite spot? What is their favorite spot now? Should I ask them what they want? And they reply with the common answer, NOTHING!
Well, I'm taking a breather from this irritating confused headache I am about to get. Tossing my head back, reclining in my favorite chair, I start to relax saying to myself, “Grandma, what would you like for Christmas? Really like? We know the family is going to ask? Or they may come up with something they saw in an advertisement that is perfect for a Senior Adult!"
At this time in our lives we have so very much and if we need something we buy it. The ideas roll around in my head. Maybe I would like something cozy and warm? Maybe a photo album that revolves? Maybe a small new modern kitchen appliance? Maybe gift cards or maybe a drop by for a second or two to see ‘Whats up’ before the next bowl game starts, an being slightly distracted with all the things they have to do on ‘the’ list.
Then I heard the song that Mariah Carey produced in 1994.
‘All I Want For Christmas Is You’
Oh yes, as she continues singing ....
“Make ‘MY’ wish come true, all I want is YOU” (a must to listen and watch)
Mariah Carey's official music video for that song is on YouTube and has had over 774 million views. The song was released in Carey's ‘Merry Christmas’ album in November 1994 and to this day tops ‘Billboard's Hot 100’ for the 5th year in a row.
The ‘Gift’ of YOU:
The most loved, appreciated and cherished is the gift of ‘time’, YOUR time, YOUR love and YOUR creativity through thoughtfulness and sharing.
Time is a precious commodity these days, especially with the over-busy, over-scheduled, business/work and family balance. Oh yes, let's not forget the many social obligations. Tearing apart oneself from all that is a bit challenging! Giving and receiving this gift is MOST appreciated. By showing someone you love that nothing matters other than YOU is the best!
Here are a few tips and ideas:
- Book a date and plan a time to share yourself. Perhaps enjoy a special play, movie or performance that brings back ‘the good ol days’
- Write a very unique or special story about your relationship with that person. What they mean to you! What you have learned from them. Expressing your gratitude!
- Create a book of memories, pictures are great, albums are wonderful but the story-telling and remembrances are the best. Talk about them in your life!
Being the 'Grandma’ of twin boys, mother, mother-in-law, sister and friend to many, I'm sharing as a reminder to many, that a ‘gift is a present or something that is given with no cost’. It comes in all forms, sizes,shapes and values.
The gift of TIME is the best by far.
Fortunately, I have been blessed with an amazing family that has established a TIME where we share ‘Christmas’’ together.
On Christmas Eve, I join my daughter Kirsten, my son-in-law Steve, the boys Blake and Heath and precious Dodger at their home for a sleep-over. Indulging in the ‘Patterson Traditional Christmas’. Which includes, going to their church, eating the best of the best snacks and waiting for Santa.
In the morning after Santa's arrival, we all open the amazing variety of presents, have breakfast (that's my job) and next is cozy time. A rest before, we enjoy dinner later in the day. Celebrating at my daughter's home has become a gift of ‘time and sharing’
Oh yes, I am truly spoiled and “I love it”. Usually there is a gift for me. Last year there were 2 tickets to Barry Manlow’s performance. Kirsten always offers me the option to ask a friend. I chose her. Yes, tears of joy and happiness. Definitely a ‘bonus’ gift, getting a ‘double’ portion of her time.
Is life always perfect? Heck NO…. but this gift was the best in my eyes and I'm sure in theirs.
So remember Everyone, no need to run all over searching for the greatest gift on this planet, ordering online, searching social media for what's the hottest and what isn't, fretting whether or not it will get here on time. Just take a break. Let your mind wander a bit and share YOURSELF in your way. You might even turn off your cell phone for an hour or more.
Sit down in your favorite chair and reminisce about the person you are gifting. Show your love to this very special someone. We all have fabulous personal gifts of talent, creativity, organization and communications.
Give the gift of ‘YOU and TIME’. I promise it will be your best Senior Moment!
